February 14, 2013
First and foremost, I love you. I do not say this to you enough and I know if I am dating around and connecting with different men, I first have to say with a genuine heart “I love you” to my father before I say it to the man I choose to give my heart to.
I want to say thank you for teaching me about men. Real men. Men who give nothing but their whole selves but only in few words; Because of you I have learned to watch the silent movies around me. You can tell so much about a man by the way he moves. You can understand his heart’s intention by the way the bass in his voice can be stable or quiver.
Thank you for showing me how a man dresses. A man who exudes confidence does not have to do too much. He does not prance around his masculinity in his clothes and he never has to hear from people how cool he is. He knows it. He owns it. He leaves people in awe.
Thank you for showing me I am of worth. You have always gone above and beyond for me even if I did not like your execution. You have exposed me to the finer things in life while showing me to carry humility in my purse. You taught me not to base my agency on the pockets of a man or the lip service he may usher into my ears. I will never forget when you told me at thirteen to always let a man, be a man. Go with the natural order of things and most importantly, never nag. Nagging is a sin in the Bible of Man.
I have learned from you, forgiveness is key and keeping score is not. Men make mistakes; they will want to wander only to find home again. I have observed you and the uncles- men want to play. Men want to pack light. Men want to be kept safe while thinking they are the protectors, because they are but sometimes it would be nice if they can just let down their guard. Men will do things in their own time. A man will think before he acts, when he cares. A man will order his steps before the world orders it for him.
Thank you for your lectures about risk management. Thank you for being you and crafting my healthy perception of a real man and not the one Disney wants me to believe in. It has been a riveting 23 ½ years being your daughter. You have ultimately prepared me to go deeper with men and never stay on their surface. I will never apologize for not accepting the novels they push because we both know the truth is what moves us from one step to the next. Thank you for allowing me to understand you as a man before I understood your role as a father or husband. I will be sure to do the same for my significant other, when the time comes.
Lauren Roiann Daniella